Women In STEM (sorcery, Thaumaturgy, Enchantment, Magic)

not to Discourse but I’m a cis man and my partner is an afab enby and if you call us a “straight couple” I will personally come to your house tie you to a chair and make you listen to a podcast about gender identity on endless repeat

Girl

“Nonbinary people don’t owe you gender neutrality” means “nonbinary people can have full beards and look 110% masc and not tuck and still be nonbinary” just as much as it means “nonbinary people can have long hair and wear makeup and have boobs and still be nonbinary”

Nonbinary does not mean “feminine lite” it means “nonbinary”

BEJEWLED 2022, dir. Taylor Swift

I obviously second that

Its Nice to Have A Friend is the gayest song ever. Like ever. Who is out there listening to it and finding a way to give it a straight explanation? They must be so creative.

Not any of us that’s for sure! INTHAF is a gays only event. Seriously that song is it for me. It brought back so many feelings for me as a very young person having a ‘friend’ like that. Innocent and then getting older with that person and the friendship turning into something more. Anyways it’s one of Taylor’s most meaningful songs.

I just know that when Romeo and Juliet premiered two ye olde girlies in the pit at intermission were like didst thou see the sparks betwixt Tybalt and mercutio… aye and not from their swords alone!

MISS AMERICANA (2020) dir. Lana Wilson

Taylor Swift via Instagram: We’re the problem

There’s this ableist idea that the default is for people to have zero disabilities and mental illnesses. That’s why there’s a concept of there being “too many diagnoses” - because people totally assume there’s like, a Perfectly Normal Human to begin with and that that idealized body has zero brain issues or disabilities.

And that’s so wrong. That’s just as wrong as assuming non-intersex, cishet middle-class white guys are the Perfectly Normal Human of which everyone else is an imperfect copy.

We’re not made from a mould. We have endless variations and they aren’t divergence from some Perfectly Normal Copy, they’re literally the way life functions. There is no perfect copy. There are only variations, some of which have the privilege of being normalized.

But privileged people see themselves as the default, and “too many differences” can seem “made up” to them, because they’re not used to relating to people who are different. Unfortunately we mentally ill/disabled people absorb this idea too and it’s really hard to unlearn it when we’re stuck in a society that’s constantly reinforcing it.

We have to be gentle with ourselves and with each other and work on normalizing variations like mental illnesses, disabilities, etc., so the focus can be on meeting the needs of people who have them instead of just surviving ableism.

♫ But now that we’re done and it’s over I bet you couldn’t believe When you realized I’m harder to forget than I was to leave And I bet you think about me ♫