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Why Do Locktober?

I’ve been getting a lot of questions about Locktober, particularly from men seeking motivation or tips. While there’s plenty of that information available online, I want to focus on the more intriguing question: Why participate in Locktober?

Why would someone choose to lock their partner in a chastity device for “a whole, glorious 31 days of no being poked in the back at night, no erections, and complete chastity play”? Here’s a brief list based on my personal perspective:

Fun

Like anything related to chastity or sex, Locktober is about having fun. Many couples’ sex lives can become routine over time, and Locktober serves as a shakeup. For an entire month, the male won’t experience any orgasms or erections, which is a significant change for someone used to regular self-gratification.

For the keyholder, the fun comes from becoming the focal point of all sexual attention. You set the pace, deciding how much or little intimacy you want. You can even indulge in guilt-free teasing, knowing it’s all part of the game. It’s a month of sexual selfishness—on your terms.

Redirected Focus

During Locktober, the male is prevented from touching, and often even seeing, his penis. This forces a redirection of focus, as men typically spend waaay more time touching it and thinking about it than you could ever imagine.

Many women who lock their partners notice improvements in productivity, mood, and focus. Whether it’s because they’re eager to please you or because their pent-up sexual energy gets channeled elsewhere, you’ll likely notice a positive shift. This can be directed toward your pleasure, without any obligation to reciprocate.

Need a back tickle? A massage? Want him to go down on you or play with a toy? You get to choose. You will probably find that your locked male becomes much more touchy and cuddly even as early as Day 3 or Day 4 locked - at least in part because he can't touch himself! Enjoy it, direct it, or shut it down as you please. Remember, even if you want nothing at all, the power is entirely yours.

New Skills

Locktober shakes things up for 31 days, giving both partners an opportunity to develop new skills. The male may work on becoming better at oral sex, massage, or using toys. Some men also find a surge in motivation for fitness and healthy living during this time.

For the keyholder, it’s a chance to practice holding all the sexual power in the relationship. Women often struggle with saying “no” or feel guilty about prioritizing their own needs. In Locktober, it’s expected—you’re supposed to say no. It’s part of the fun, and part of the dynamic.

These skills, once learned, can continue to benefit your relationship long after October ends.