As A Bisexual Trans Guy I Fully Understand The Urge To See Canon Gay Relationships In TV And Film. But

As a bisexual trans guy I fully understand the urge to see canon gay relationships in TV and film. But honestly after 5 seasons of Gotham watching Good Omens they are very different experiences and that’s why I don’t think Good Omens is queer baiting at all.

The book stated very openly that people assume Aziraphale to be a gay man but angels and demons don’t have genders and don’t have sex or genitals unless they want all of that but it sounds like a lot of them in fact do not want any of that.

Unlike Gotham where from the get go you get a character who is gay coded, confesses they love a man who has only shown interest in women.

Gotham spent seasons three through five baiting the idea of two male characters being romantically involved but constantly having character A behave as an evil gay ruining character B’s life and chance at true love aka straight love or showed character B as horribly violent and cruel towards character A then ended the show on them saying they’re like brothers, family, blood related. C’mere bro. Bro.

Good Omens in book and series never does any of that. Crowley and Aziraphale don’t actually have set genders, we know that Aziraphale has always chosen to present as a man by societal standards because it’s comfortable, it’s the same reason he wears the same suit and shoes and owns so many vintage things he’s not been able to let go of; it’s what he’s known since either his day of creation or his time on Earth and he doesn’t like change all that much.

Crowley on the other hand we see represent as a woman at least twice throughout the series and even his 1990s and 2018 clothing styles consist of typically feminine clothes or just flat out women’s clothing. Crowley doesn’t assign himself specifically to any gender, goes by male pronouns mostly, but doesn’t seem to really give a shit about gender and labelling clothes by gender.

There’s never a point where either has a sexuality crisis. There’s never a moment where one realizes they love the other and have a panic attack about what could happen, there’s never a moment of dread at loving another man shaped being. Aziraphale panics over loving Crowley solely because he knows if Heaven found out and Hell found out about them, about how they feel then he’d become fallen and Crowley would be destroyed. That’s the fear.

That’s the issue for these two at the end of the day. They love each other, everything in and surrounding the story is quite clear about that and even the archangels know Aziraphale loves Crowley, the issue isn’t gender or sexuality; the issue is falling in love with a demon and if that demon is destroyed then you’ve lost the one being you have loved for over 6000 years and now you’re alone, fallen and alone. Which is horrifying.

And to move onto to the issue about “showing they love each other” aka kissing, sex, etc. (show them do things straight couples do, why do straight couples get to make out and have sex) it’s a super valid argument, but like Neil brought up on twitter…..They’re sexless beings.

The fact that you can watch the series and draw from it that they’re in love with each other and the furthest they ever get is hand holding a couple of times speaks volumes aka you don’t have to show passionate make out sessions and sex to show and prove two people love each other and….it’s toxic as hell to accidentally send that message out there.

When you argue it’s not a real love story because they never kiss or hook up that could make somebody who is asexual or just not sure about sex at all feel like they are expected to make out and have sex with a partner to prove their love to them…..which isn’t cool.

I’ve loved plenty of people that I never kissed or had sex with, it’s totally possible.

Honestly for writing and cinematography and directing and acting it shows how fucking talented everybody working on the series is/was for being able to depict how deeply these two loved each other without having to have a random sex scene shoved in there.

and yeah there’s obviously nothing wrong with drawing fan art or writing fan fiction where the two show their compassion through more physical means, I’ve written fics where they kiss and do more and I’ve seen some gorgeous NSFW art work of those two together, but it’s not lesser to keep them asexual.

There’s no wrong way to look at their love story. They love each other and that love is beyond having to show it through physical means. They show it in the way they look at each other and the soft way they speak to each other and the things they do for each other which is really romantic and endearing.

To be honest we need more shows and films that can depict asexual characters and asexual relationships without having to make it a PSA or a ‘fix it’ situation.

So yeah….I’m all here for writing and drawing them being physical but I also truly adore them in a more platonic and asexual relationship, becacuse that isn’t queer baiting, asexual people exist.