Vaginal Hygiene & Health - An Introductory Crash Course

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

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I know it’s not hard to point out reactionaries hypocrisy when it comes to like safe spaces or hug boxes or whatever but genuinely how much of an echo chamber do you have to exist in for you to think this is a reasonable thing to say

I improved the meme

Would it kill women to not assume that every single male is a sexual predator?

Yes actually. Yes it can literally kill us to not assume that men around us are sexual predators and take precautions accordingly.

Because it only takes one dangerous predatory guy to traumatize or even kill us and there’s a lot of them and none of you wear signs.

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nothings hotter than a man that listens to science and wears a mask

This is painful. I have no words..

I really really like Eric with Adam and Otis with Ruby. And here's why:

Obviously with their shared history Eric has a lot to work through with Adam, but I like them a lot more than I liked Eric with Rahim.

And especially if you look at the sneak peeks of s3 and see that Otis and Ruby become much closer than before, I'm not surprised. First of all, because we all saw the end of season 2, and because, well, it all forms quite a nice theme when you put these couples together.

Both Adam and Ruby are two characters that can be very unlikeable at first glance - Adam being the resident bully of Moordale Secondary, and Ruby being the queen b, and the centre of The Untouchables.

And Otis and Eric are two people, who, fully willingly or by pure chance, got a glimpse of a different side of their respective partners, seeing them in a light nobody else saw them in before. Or even bothered to see them in.

Remember what Ruby said in season 1 to Meave and Otis, when the thing with her nudes was happening?

"I'm a bitch, Meave. I'm a bitch to everybody."

And Adam?

Close to the end of season 2 he says to Eric:

"I'm very easy to not like."

Neither of them really had any other role to play, as far as we know. All we knew them to be were a bitch and a bully, respectively.

Luckily for both of them Otis and Eric are both intelligent and empathetic, so they had the tools needed to get through their shells.

Did they have to do it?

No.

But they did it anyway.

And while yes, I like Meave, I like her a lot, I don't think she and Otis would or should be endgame.

For one, it's not uncommon in media about teenagers to have a male protagonist go for the cool, withdrawn girl nobody likes.

And we already know that Sex Education is a show that loves playing with subverting different kinds of tropes and cliches.

If it were any other show that plays out known tropes in a straightforward way, Otis would most definitely end up with Meave.

But Ruby?

We already know from interviews with the cast that we are going to see Ruby in a much different light this season. I'm personally expecting myself to cry my eyes out because of her arc this season, but I digress.

What I'm trying to say here is that we already know Meave to be a cool, intelligent and nice person, who's just protecting herself from getting hurt, hence - she's built up a wall around herself. And she's only really let Otis and Aimee in, more than any other people. Well, Jackson too, but that's a whole mess for an entirely different post.

But with Ruby, we don't really know that. That is, we are expecting from the get go that yes, this mean, smart alt girl with dyed hair definitely has a softer side. But the bitch in chief that is Ruby? Nobody cares whether or not she has any depth to her. She's popular, she's hot, she has a great fashion sense. That's all people expect or want from her. She's been playing her part very well for a very long time, but even her shell has several cracks in it already. And if we're lucky, she's going to drop the shell altogether in the 3rd season, never to pick it up again. I'm really hoping for it, because you could see when her and Otis were buying the morning after pill, that her mentioning her dad wasn't easy for her. It's the first time we ever hear anything about him or her family at all, and I think it's no coincidence that Otis of all people is there to hear it. I think that, similarly to how Eric did with Adam, Otis was the one who was meant to see this vulnerable side of Ruby.

And another thing I thought about - both Adam and Ruby are not people you'd expect to have a softer side or any redeeming qualities. Otis called Eric out when he heard about his friend's most recent history with Adam, and rightfully so. And yet I can't help but think that we are going to get a similar scene in season 3 with Otis defending Ruby in front of someone, maybe even Eric, to have the situation come full circle?

Because both of them know these people have more to them than meets the eye, and if they are both committed to defending them and being by their side, seeing them grow, perhaps all four of them can grow in the process, both as individuals and as couples?

Omg rue if she had survived the hunger games 😍😍

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