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"when tumblr crumbles let's all move to a google doc" queerstake does this twice a year for general conference. mormons ahead of the game for doomsday preparation as usual

1x14 Sam on my mind tonight

my take on the whole "dean was parentified" narrative and where that slippery slope usually takes people ("sam was spoiled as a kid and dean shielded him from all harm") is that many people can't comprehend that dean was in fact parentified, but that doesn't mean he was sam's father. sam had a father, and it was john.

nor does it mean sam was spoiled or babied by either of them. canon doesn't support this interpretation despite it being so popular in the fandom.

dean was parentified in the sense that he had responsibilies and stressors that weren't appropriate for his age and his role as a son... but that doesn't change the fact that his relationship with sam was that of a brother, not a parent.

at one point dean says "I had to be more than just a brother. I had to be a father, and I had to be a mother." and his feelings of overwhelm and resentment are valid—their childhoods were difficult, stressful, and abnormal.

however, this doesn't mean "john was absolutely useless and neglectful, so he was completely out of the picture. dean was indeed sam's father and mother. and he fulfilled those roles so well that sam had a happy, easy childhood and he was freed from any parent-related trauma, since dean was his parent, and he did a stellar job at it"... you know?

parentified siblings are siblings after all (and sam and dean only have a 4-year age gap). and dean did "fail" in his parentified role—sometimes he fucked up, sometimes he was the one hurting sam. in many ways, he didn't understand sam's needs or how to fulfill them. which is understandable. and he definitely couldn't shield sam from the difficulties they both had to face. that was well beyond his capability after all

on top of that, sam was taught self-reliance from a young age and he was exposed to the hardships of their lifestyle just like dean (hardships in general since he was born, and hunter-related ones since he was eight). and most of the glimpses we get of sam as a child/teen show a lonely, sad, troubled person. where's the pampered and unconcerned child!sam people keep hallucinating?

deep down, the issue is that people seem to put sam and dean on a seesaw and weight their problems and traumas against each other. if we say sam had a shitty childhood, then we're somehow denying dean's traumas and sacrifices. and if we believe dean suffered a lot in his youth, then that must mean sam had everything served on a silver platter. and that makes no sense.

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you are not a misfit! You are a needed part of the body of Christ!

Let’s go!

having worked with kids that age, the hate actually breaks my heart. because have you ever met a 3 year old? they’re temperamental and can be difficult to manage but they have the biggest hearts and care so much. they make so many mistakes because they’re so new. and with jack, it’s like, of course he had an emotional blowup, he’s (essentially) a toddler. they don’t have the experience to develop emotional regulation or read social cues, they just don’t have the experience. in my eyes jack can do no wrong, not because all of the things he does are good but because he’s a toddler.

y'all literally, i cannot tolerate any jack hate At All

”I find hope in striving to be whole.”

Oh I’m gonna need every line of this talk printed on my wall I can already tell. Go Sister Johnson, go.

i love destiel but i wish the other ships were as popular. like yes cas and dean are my favs but what abt samandy?? sastiel?? dean and lisa?? sam and jess?? saileen?? hello, where’s their representation??

everything is longer than god now. one hour and ten minute tv episodes. six hour adaptations of one single YA novel. two and a half hour movies that are half of one musical. I’m sick of it! take me back to the true way: 22-episode seasons of tv where some dudes die and are fine again every 45 minutes for 15 years.