Ladyofbirds - Lady Of Birds

assuming that people like you and want to spend time with you is crucial to making friends. unfortunately this is the hardest thing to do in the world

I don't think it's infantilizing to headcanon an autistic character as asexual especially since there are many autistic asexuals and a lot of them may see themselves in these characters. What should raise an eyebrow is when they get the "precious innocent baby cinnamon roll who doesn't know what sex is" treatment cause if I'm being completely honest that characterization is offensive to both autistic and asexual people

Being an asshole is not in the DSM. Not everyone you hate is mentally ill and not everyone who does bad things is mentally ill either.

The DSM is a highly flawed and politicized way to define mental health disabilities that I have a lot of personal gripes with, but even THEY don't have "Shitty Asshole Disease" as a mental illness.

The future is worth saving no matter the cost.

No no you don't understand! I want to watch this show/movie, read this book, listen to this podcast, etc.! But I must be in the right mindset and the exact head space to begin, or I just can't!

"jamil is in the right and kalim is a monster" "kalim is in the right and jamil is a monster" maybe theyre both not monsters. maybe theyre both very traumatized teenage boys who are coping with that trauma by forming a codependant relationship that's harmful to both of them. maybe that codependency and the uneven power dynamic caused both of them to act in ways that they shouldn't have. maybe they have a complex relationship to each other that can't and shouldn't be reduced to one of them being a monster and the other being a innocent victim. idk though.

You aren't ungrateful just because you're frustrated with your situation. You can feel upset while still being grateful for what you have. Two things can be true at the same time.

The way most autism literature describes "literal interpretation" is often not at all similar to how I experience it. Teenage me even thought I couldn't be autistic because I've always been able to learn metaphors easily.

In fact, I love wordplay of all kinds. Teenage me was fascinated to learn all the types of figurative language there are in poetry and literature.

But paperwork and questionnaires are hard, because there's so much they don't state clearly. Or they don't leave room for enough nuance.

"List all the jobs you've had, with start and end dates." What if I don't remember the exact day or month? Is the year enough?

"Have you been suffering from blurred vision?" Well, if I take off my glasses the whole world is blurred, but I'm fairly sure that's not what the intake form at the optometrist is asking.

Or the infamous (and infuriatingly stereotypical) "Would you rather go to a library or a party?" What sort of party? Where? Who's there? I work at a library. Am I currently at the library for work or pleasure? Does it have a good collection?

It's not common figures of speech that confound me. It's ambiguity, in situations that aren't supposed to be ambiguous.

i hate rejection sensitivity dude wdym my coworker gently corrected my mistake and i want to bash my own skull in with a hammer