Spread It Like Butter

Don’t forget about… The ones who are questioning. The ones who are called attention seekers. The ones who are suicidal. The ones who are ‘sent to therapy’. The ones who are abused The ones who are about to go through hell. The ones who are going through hell. The ones who have been through hell. The ones who are all alone.  The ones who can’t seem to catch a break. The ones who can’t transition. The ones who aren’t accepted. The ones who feel hopeless. The ones who think they are broken. The ones who are lost. The ones who don’t know where to turn. Don’t forget about the closet. We were all there once. Some people may find it too much for them. We are survivors and we need to help those who will become survivors too. If you are in the closet know you aren’t alone. If you came out too soon or are in a harmful environment you are not alone. We love you. We want the best for you. We wish that one day you will join us. You’re just as valid and beautiful. Stay strong. 

Since it seems to be the cool hip thing for allos to hate aros and/or aces and exclude them from the community we belong in, I just want you to know that when you say we “haven’t suffered enough”, you’re telling all asexuals that have faced “corrective” rape that they haven’t suffered

You’re telling that to all asexuals who are told every fucking day that they’ll change their mind someday

You’re telling that to every aromantic kid who had panic attacks when faced with romantic situation and thought it was something that everyone felt because our problems are never spoken of

You’re telling that to every aromantic that grows up in an amatonormatic culture and can’t relate to a bit of it

You’re telling that to every asexual or aromantic who thinks they’re broken and need to be fixed for something that they can’t help

You’re telling that to every asexual or aromantic that doesn’t even realize that their orientation exists because people talk about straight, gay, bi, anything, but theirs doesn’t even exist to others

You’re telling that to every asexual who is called childish and innocent just because of their sexuality

You’re telling that to every aromantic who is called a robot and heartless and cold

You’re telling that to every aroace who watches people cheer when a same-gender couple is in the media and is thinking “well, where am I? When do I get representation?”

You’re telling that to every aroace who only gets representation in robots and villians

You’re telling that to every aromantic or asexual who tries to headcanon a character to fit them that is shot down by people of every sexuality because look! That character looked at someone else once! They can’t possible be like you, you. can’t. have. them.

You’re telling that to every aromantic or asexual who tries to stick up for themselves and is shot down with laughter

You’re telling that to every asexual whose parents don’t believe them, whose friends don’t believe them, to every ace that has no one and tries to find some support in the LGBT+ community and are immediately laughed at and kicked out

You’re telling that to me, and every other person in the aromantic or asexual community full of anxiety and self doubt that wants to cry and throw up at every arophobic or acephobic post they see

Just think about that next time. Okay? Please.

some asexuals know they’re asexual from day one

some asexuals don’t realize they’re asexual until after they’ve had sex

either way, they’re sexuality is valid, and you need to respect them.

they are NOT just “not ready for sex”

they have NOT just “not had sex the right way”

they’re sexuality is valid, whether or not you think it is. Respect it.

me: i’m aromantic

allos: so you’re a robot?

me: hold up let me check 

me: nope still not a robot :)

*ace people laughing in the distance*

Well I know that’s my opinion.

And smol.

what if they printed books with glow in the dark ink, so you could stay up past your bedtime reading, but it wouldn’t have to use a flashlight so it wouldn’t be so obvious

Writing 📝

I’m going to come out as bisexual to my homophobic parents on 1st January 2016, please reblog this and I will put your URL in a notebook and give it to them to show that people support me x