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Question: What do you suggest for younger aspiring submissives to do till they find a sir?

A very good question. What can a boy do now as they seek their sir. There are many things out there. Obviously every Dom is a little different, so I am going to give you some suggestions that naturally lean towards me and my style. 

-Get Comfortable with your body. Some boys are very shy about their bodies. Doms are going to want to touch you. They are going to feel your body quiver in their hands. They are going to want to push you.

So what can you do about it… I would recommend lounging in less clothes around the house. Going to pool/beach more often, where you would only wear swimtrunks. Try sleeping naked a couple nights per week. Basically get more comfortable with the exposure element. 

-Evaluate your underwear selection. No matter what you do in life. Your clothes say a lot about you. Whether or not you have a suit says something. Whether or not you wear flip flops says something. Whether or not you wear night shirt. Do you own underwear that a Dom would want to see you in? Something to excite him? I am not saying you need go out and buy all new underwear, but it should be something you build up over time with a piece or two here and there. 

I think this is an important point also because it says something about your desire to be seen in your underwear. Remember the line from 10 Things I Hate About You, “You don’t buy black lingerie unless you want someone to see it.”

-Self Experiment with Toys. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, but it helps if you are not deadly afraid of new experiences. Even if you are still generally new, I recommend practicing with some toys. Two toys I think every boy should have: (1) a dildo and (2) a plug. I recommend the smaller training ones for new boys. 

-Research BDSM terms and gear. Attitude is everything in Dom/sub interactions. Subs want a Dom who is confident, Doms want a boy who will not freak out. It helps if you have explored the online world to learn about general techniques and toys. Basically, I don’t want you to have a traumatic incident if I put a collar on you. It also helps to develop an interest list: things you are willing and not willing to do.

-Taste your own cum. Its going to be alright, your own cum won’t bite. Like many Doms, I expect my boys to swallow. If you are so utterly grossed out by it, you need to taste your own. I often have done a training exercise where a boy must swallow every drop that comes out whenever he cums. It is a little rough at first, but he gets used to it. After all, spiting is rude. 

-Practice Your Manners. This last one is a big one. It is so simple, it is often overlooked. Obviously, there is a degree of training involved in Dom/sub interactions, but you can go a long way when you self-evaluate your manners. If you cannot seem to learn that you need to call me Sir as a basic sign of respect, then it is unlikely, you would be invited back. 

So what can you do? Listen to yourself for a day. How often are you saying please? Thank you? Do you hold the door for others? Or do you just act like those self entitled brats that say nothing when the door is held for you? 

I will let you in on a secret. There is ton of bullcrap on here about “breaking” a cocky boy. False. That is so much fucking work that has no guarantees and the boy is unlikely to be that sub anyways. It usually amounts to nothing more than rough fuck. True Doms want a boy who understands a lot about himself and his submissive feelings. Having good manners goes a long way. 

I think these should be very helpful for arising sub boys. The final comment I will leave you with is this… allow yourself to accept your submissive tendencies. It is perfect okay to be sub. It is even better when you allow yourself to experience those feelings.