Kelpforestfire

“oh no we need to practice for our fake dating” is the funniest trope to me cause like. there are so many people who force themselves into a shitty relationship they hate just because of amatonormatiivity that it’s an ingrained part of popular culture to joke about hating your partner.

which is to say, oh my god you dont need to hold hands and go on fake dates, you don’t even need to agree on a single detail of your cover story beforehand. you can literally stand 6 feet apart at all times and look profoundly uncomfortable and all anyone will think is “yikes™. not my problem”

So I have read several people complaining that they can't be expected to know the "unwritten rules" of fandom. So here's what I wish people knew:

Fanfiction is fiction.

Fictional people are not real.

Fictional people do not have rights.

Fictional people cannot be abused.

Reading or writing about something does not mean the desire to do or support it in the real world.

If I find art upsetting/triggering/disgusting/outraging/unpleasant/squicky/distressing/offensive, it is on me not to read it, not the creators and hosts to remove it.

Curate your own experience. The back buttons exist for a reason.

If you don't trust yourself to do that, get someone you trust to do it for you.

Fandom is an adult space. Adults create and own and host fandom spaces. If minors want to participate, then the onus is on them and their parents/guardians/trusted adults to ensure they participate appropriately, not on strange adults to stop being adults.

You often don't know the assault status or mental health status or neurotype or race or nationality or religion or gender or sexuality or age of a creator or consumer, and they do not have to disclose to you to justify their fantasy.

AO3 is not a safe space. It is not intended to be a safe space. Proceed accordingly.

Just because you don't like something or find it offensive doesn't mean it is a "problem" that "has to be dealt with".

Most characters in anime are not white.

There is no onus on you to reblog or share anything.

Everyone makes mistakes in fandom and is less than their best self sometimes.

Persistent pseudonyms encourage long term relationships.

Ship wars are stupid.

Someone else enjoying things does not impact on your own enjoyment of other things.

Tagging and warning is a courtesy, not a requirement. Assume any fic might contain untagged content.

Rating is an imprecise art, not a science.

Don't hassle IP creators.

Most people who are in fandom are hoping to make connections based on a shared passion.

Trying to profit from transformative fanworks puts us all at risk.

No one is obligated to share your head canon or fanon.

Being kind rarely fails to pay off.

It is okay to block and remove people who make your experience unpleasant. You don't have to placate them. (Learn from my mistakes).

Britpicking is a good thing.

You don't have to justify why you like a canon/pairing/trope/kink. Sometimes navel gazing is fun, but you don't have an obligation to explain yourself, especially to strangers. I share the overwhelming desire to refute an unfair accusation, but the people accusing you are rarely doing so in good faith, so you're batting a losing wicket.

I'm not your Mum. (Well, okay, a very few of you can call me Mum or Mom, but if you are one of them you already know who you are ❤️)

If you aren't mature enough to take responsibility for your online experiences, you aren't mature enough to be in fandom spaces.

What she says: I'm fine

What she means: I've been screaming endlessly inside of my head for the past week. I haven't had a decent night sleep in longer than I can remember and I've lost track of how many days I've been laying in bed staring at a wall.

If there is one thing I could plant in your heart, it’s that you matter, you’ll always matter.

T.B. LaBerge // Unwritten Letters to You (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)

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Girl buried with a crown of ceramic flowers. Patras, 300-400 B.C. From the Museum of Patras.

This is hauntingly pretty...

where do I get one?

You made it to the end!

I'm so proud of you!!!!!!!!!¡

I would never have tried without you and I'm so glad we did!

A few months ago, I had a few friends join the femininomenon fest, and I had major fomo. I decided to join it and brought a friend along with me (@kelpforestfire). Tonight I posted my final chapter for my snamione fic for the fest.

It was such a fun experience, and I've already started another fic for the Moony's Midlife Crisis Fest. I've made more fandom friends, beta'd more fics, and just really enjoyed finishing this little fic that allowed me to let my inner scientist nerd-out a bit.

I've had the BEST cheerleaders and betas behind me, and I've really loved the sense of community that this has given me. I've loved all the fics I've read from the fest. It really was an amazing and timely idea.

Here is the link if you want to check it out.

https://archiveofourown.org/works/63483613