Expecting Neurodivegents To Work By Neurotypicals' Methods Is Like Pressing Windows Shortcuts On A Macbook.

Jun after the medal ceremony / NHK Trophy 2022

Les sphinx au dictionnaire   -   Francine van Hove

French b.1942-

12/Clara photoshoots aesthetic, it’s what I thrive for

all this talk about goncharov but i dont see anybody posting the soundtrack??? like how are you gonna talk about this movie without the music

2022 Grand Prix de France - November 5, 2022 Maé-Bérénice Méité → I Surrender by Celine Dion, arranged by Maxime Rodriguez, choreographed by Rohene Ward

oatmeal :)

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i keep seeing you guys be conflicted about how watching an actual goncharov movie would be super cool but then ppl say “yeah but it would ruin it!”

so here’s a pitch for you

a goncharov II movie. no first one, for obvious reasons. but they make a sequel and everyone who KNOWS will know and everyone who doesn’t will… well, you know. perfect way to continue the joke without completely ruining it and see a movie.

Ok tell me this people, how do I explain to people that being infantilized is really disrespectful and upsetting? Every time I try everyone tells me "how is looking young for your age is not a compliment?" And I can't tell them it's not the same as infantilization and the latter actually feels very demeaning.

i don’t think we talk enough about how childhood bullying really just. fucks up your ability to make friends long-term.

I’m not talking about self-image or even like attachment styles, although peer emotional abuse affects that too. I’m talking about how it legitimately stunts your understanding of how positive platonic relationships even work.

Like, a few years back (pre pandemic) a classmate point-blank told me, “hey, you’re pretty cool, do you wanna come out for drinks and trivia with us Thursday night?” and my first internal reaction wasn’t “oh cool, a friend!” or even “I’m not really interested” but: “where is the trap?” My kneejerk response to an earnest overture of friendship from this guy was trying to figure out how he was trying to back me into a corner, trick me into something, or make fun of me. We were in goddamm GRADUATE SCHOOL.

Of course I did end up going to drinks and it was a lovely time, but sometimes I think about the sheer number of potential friendships I’ve missed out on because I read their intentions as potentially hostile, *even when their intent is clearly not hostile*. Getting asked out for drinks is SUPER NORMAL. Being invited to parties is normal. Meeting for coffee is normal. in fact it’s a primary way of forging adult friendships. But i am immediately wary of it, because the years in which I was developing most of my crucial social skills were spent dodging cruel pranks, getting invited to fake parties or uninvited from real ones, getting asked out “as a joke”, being given compliments that were actually somehow insults, and so forth.

I don’t have problems making friends– I talk to people for a living, I am overall extremely charismatic and get invited out a lot, but I struggle to forge new connections because my trained response is to be immediately suspicious of people who appear friendly, welcoming and well-intentioned – even fifteen years later. This is why I don’t get the “you should have been bullied more” crowd. Like somehow bullying makes you more “normal”. It definitely doesn’t, even if “normal” was a real thing. I am definitely a more antisocial weirdo as a result of prolonged peer-to-peer emotional abuse than I would have been otherwise.