Itgirlscout - IT Girl Scout

Totally understand. I never had much luck on apps both pre trans and post. They are simply not designed for us.

I feel your pain with the loneliness, my DMs and blog are always open to chat about Linux, TV, and just general nerdery <3

i wish i had a boyfriend. or anybody who finds me attractive or interesting at all. i wanna hug a boy and i want to kiss him gently... and i want him to tell me it'll be alright

So for members of bdsm Dungeons, it's a rule that you don't approach other members if you see them on public for privacy reasons. They might not want people knowing they're a freak.

That said, it's normal to make friends in that space who you hang out with, outside of kink stuff. When that happens and people asked where I met my friend, my go-to line was "Spin-class," which is a very funny joke if you know me even a little. Very not my scene.

Well, funnily enough, while I was working at a homeless shelter, we had a very similar rule because of the homeless stigma. If a guest from the Shelter sees you outside of work, you don't acknowledge or approach them. They can approach you, but you don't tell whoever you're with where you know them. The guest gets to decide if they want to share that info.

Smash cut to me being out with a friend I met at the dungeon a very long time ago. I bump into a guest from the shelter who approaches me to chat. My friend asks how I know the guest, and without thinking, I blurt out "spin class" before remembering that's my go to lie for how I ment dungeon friends. These two proceed to have a conversation, neither fully understood.

Friend: ooohhhh okay i get it. Spin class! Me too. Stopped taking that class a while ago tho.

Guest. Oh for real? That's sick man, good for you! You got a good set up now?

Friend: The best!! I've taken up wood working so my furniture is all custom. Got plenty of space to do "spin" at home. It's coming together.

Guest: Hell yeah brother!!!

Friend: was really good to have my own space during the rona, but man it's lonely! I kinda miss the group dynamics.

Guest: Yeah, i heard that from my homie when he got out of "Spin class!" But it's for the best.

Friend: it can be, but its not for everybody. Can be safer to Spin in a group.

Guest: i know that. Lost a few homie to "spinning" alone. At least at the "class" you got other eyes on you.

Friend: I'm sorry to hear that! You know some elements of "Spinning" are risky but you never think anyone would get hurt. So, my buddy here still a real hard ass for safety?

Guest: oh man you dont even know. They revamped our whole fire escape plan.

Friend: Oh shit! They did that back when i was in Spin class too!

Guest: still improving the system i guess.

Friend: they still keep a bunch of robes outside in a shed so people who get out can cover up?

Guest: Yes!!!

Friend: Did you know it's their fault we have a 30 second rule!

Guest: Damn really!?! Makes sense tho, if there's a fire you gotta get out fast!

Friend: Yeah, I Never gave it much thought before they brought it up, but yeah the last thing you want is a fire when you're all tired up!

Guest: Yeah, that's true. I didn't know they came up with the rule, tho. I do like having the space between the beds clear...

Friend: Yeah it's so annoying when people block the path with their shit.

Guest: Yeah there's not enough space between beds for people to be hording shit.

Friend: Yeah! I loved that they always got people to keep their area clear.

Guest: not gonna lie i hate being told to clean up but it is better that way.

Friend: Yeah... haha.

Guest: well it was nice chatting with you brother.

Friend: you too, man! See ya around!

Guest: see ya!

Me:

Co-fronting is such an experience because sometimes it’s like I don’t know who I am and everything is confusing and bad, and other times it’s just the two of us having two separate conversations simultaneously

bat at hornets nest maybe but "there is no ethical consumption under capitalism" refers to low income communities needing to choose between survival vs being eco friendly. not you continuing to watch the harry potter movies

it sucks so bad that companies own things

Enjoy it while it lasts. This will be banned before you can say "trans equality".

the Guardian

Woman becomes first UK womb transplant recipient to give birth

Grace Davidson gives birth to baby Amy Isabel after receiving her sister’s womb in 2023

A fucking womb transplant, what an incredible thing. Fair play to all involved. A positive news story amidst all the dire shite.

Tonight was a good night :)

In a town a few hours from me, there is an event called Sparkle that I go to every year. And ever year we get all dressed up to take pictures.

Two years ago, Beatrice picked our outfit.

Last year, Monday picked our outfit.

And this year after a brief wardrobe crisis, our original host Emily/Tink, who is still a little four year old, wanted to pick out what we wore. We wore a pink dress with puffed up sleeves and a petticoat, and a tiara, and beautiful iridescent wings.

This is the third time Emily/Tink has fronted after she stopped being the host when the body was four. She never felt safe in the world.

But tonight we wore a pink dress and a tiara, and when I co-fronted with her during the event, she got showered with nothing but compliments, there were little girls running up to hug us and take pictures, and thinking we were a Princess.

And Emily/Tink got to see the lights on the trees and hand out candy to kids and she just had an amazing, amazing day.

And after all that, I think the best thing is, that while that day had such an impact on us, it will also have an impact on those little kids. They will get to one day look back on those pictures and hopefully remember just as magical and special a time as we had.

I am so happy that this is the third reunion Emily/Tink had with the world. And I hope that remembering seeing the lights will comfort her, even if she never fronts again.

She finally had one good night.

This is what i look like if u give me salad btw

Tgirl but you seem pretty cool bro, you'll find your person as we all will. They're out there looking for you rn too!

i wish i had a boyfriend. or anybody who finds me attractive or interesting at all. i wanna hug a boy and i want to kiss him gently... and i want him to tell me it'll be alright