I Don't Want To Put The OP On Blast But There's A Post I've Seen Go Around A Bit About Doing A CNC Scene

I don't want to put the OP on blast but there's a post I've seen go around a bit about doing a CNC scene where they have to safeword twice for you to actually stop, or have the dom/me roll a dice to see the number of times you have to safeword before they'll stop and it really rubs me the wrong way

like I get what it's going for I do, for CNC the idea of somebody not stopping when you tell them to is very hot. but you already have ways of doing that? like saying "no" and "stop"?

The post bugs me because it feels like it just doesn't understand BDSM safety and you REALLY need to understand BDSM safety if you're doing hard kinks. A safeword is what it says in the name, it's for SAFETY. You need to have a word that means "stop right now, immediately, no questions" as a SAFETY precaution so you don't cause real physical or mental harm. Imagine if say a rope was cutting into your flesh in a dangerous and painful way and you have to do this stupid exercise of safewording 5 times to make it stop

It also feels like it's implying that the scene always goes until someone safewords? which, again, no? Ideally you shouldn't safeword at all. Ideally you've discussed what you're going to do and finish the scene without anybody having to suddenly stop it.

idk man. sometimes I worry there are a lot of young inexperienced people on here getting into hard kink without doing the work to learn how to do it safely first.