[video by lpkchang808, duet with pink.williams]
Marcille relearning her native language takes a turn
oil painting (29,7 x 42 cm) of that bumblebee from last week <3
i post more traditional art on my instagram !
Day 2 of learning pixel art
made some mushies. my boyfriend inspired me to do one of those drippy ink cap mushrooms :D
Trans person goes to the doctor
Doctor examines them
Doc: "I diagnose you with no boob disease"
oh my god???????????!!!
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The thing is that humans are social creatures. We are meant to be with people in groups with love in all kind of forms. The way society is now it promotes the exact opposite. It promotes individuality but to an extent that is actually harmful. That kind of loneliness can't be solved by self love because as the person already said self love isn't what is missing here.
I kinda forgot where I was going here but my point is that I agree with OP and that I think being with people that not only give you romantic or sexual love but also platonic love helps. And that isn't necessarily restricted to one partner. In my opinion it would actually be too much to burden one person with.
On being alone:
whenever I talk about feeling lonely (which is, unless I’m stressed, probably once every 2-3 months) people tell me I need to learn to be by myself and self love is a thing that comes up a lot.
all of those people are in relationships.
I get very KNEE JERK defensive about this, and I just want to explain why here. It’s not that there’s an element of truth to it - logically, if I could be truly truly happy with not sharing my world with anyone or anything else, man my emotional life would be fantastic! and no one would feel the need to shack up or get together, either. This is my point: I think there’s a blurred line or assumption that if you feel lonely, it means you are co-dependant and actively seeking out validation from others.
so I just want to dispel that myth. It is POSSIBLE to feel lonely. it is possible to be in a relationship and feel lonely. it is possible to be strong, sure of yourself and independent, and still feel lonely. it’s actually very normal and OKAY to feel those things. being co-dependant and too reliant on the validation of others is really not the same thing has feeling lonely. when people tell me this is the problem I have, I want to tell them: ‘no, really, it isn’t. I’ve been co-dependant, and this isn’t it. I’ve gone too far the other way - I spend too much of my time alone and have trouble/anxiety meeting even my closest friends - co-dependancy is definitely NOT the problem here’
Putting that aside, I also really hate the idea that loving yourself is the magic key to finding a perfect relationship. absolute BS. loving yourself is so so so important - but placing another person on the end of that goal is just another way of saying ‘if you reach this impossible goal, then you’ll finally be happy forever.’ Neither of these things are true, and it needs reframing. it’s important to give yourself respect and standards, but truly loving yourself is an ever-changing goal. plenty of people meet people who change them for the better, or not, where you are at in life really makes no difference - and for me, it’s dangerous to state otherwise and equate that to self blame if you haven’t.
A lot of people focus on saying how strong you are. And they mean well. And sometimes it’s the reminder we need.
But sometimes… it’s the exact opposite of what we need to hear.
So, here’s a reminder if you need it. It’s okay to be weak. It’s okay to need to take a break. It’s okay to be tired. It’s okay to crumble. Your worth does not change. It’s okay if you don’t want to be strong. You are worthy whether you’re weak or strong.