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The expectation of sexuality among teens is what really irks me.

It was most confusing and alarming to me when books, media, medical professionals, hell even my parents made me feel like I was supposed to one day look at a boy my age and get the vapors or something. Like everything would be all rosy, butterflies would float into the air, the sun would beam upon my skin, and the sky would clear because of some budding attraction that according to most of society is expected. Outside of innocent attraction too, that all other members of society were leering over my shoulders, watching me like a hawk for any self exploration even encroaching upon the realm of sexuality and desire, ready to shame me if I took one step or stumble into the less-than-innocent that is supposed to come with maturing.

I genuinely had issues with fitting in because I thought something was wrong with me for somehow fucking up this mystical biological math equation, and not getting “x= people are attractive and sex and attraction with or towards attractive strangers is appealing and good yay”. There were times when I would lie about liking a boy in my class and back pedaling when girls my age reacted negatively, because FUCK if I knew what made that person an appealing or non-appealing pick. I kept waiting for this change that never came, and yet at the back of my mind something was whispering that I wasn’t the ever the same as those other peers of mine I saw as ‘normal’.

Even after I found my identity, and I’ve still not felt the need to change that label, there have been other addendums added to it. And those were important to me, too. The realization that, yeah, I don’t really give a shit about a persons gender if I do manage to fall in love was a big one, even if it was obvious until then. And even if I had bloomed late and realized I’m not demi, just picky as hell, I would still know that I don’t have a gender preference and kind of never had to begin with. Even if I never have a relationship with a woman or an androgynous, nonbinary, or intersex person, knowing that I don’t have a preference about that subject either way was still valuable to my self discovery.

I really think that society as a whole needs to stop emphasizing attraction as a turning point of maturity milestones, if not because it doesn’t work as general marker, (and really never did), then because there are still kindergarteners who crush on each other, and kiss on the playground swing set, and that technically forces the definition to include kids who recognize attraction early as well, which I don’t think is ethical- or right. But even with that aside, the isolation I felt then- the isolation I still feel as a result of misunderstanding about my identity- is real and it hurt me. And that caused some of my hurt. My life would’ve been a touch easier if there wasn’t this implicit expectation to turn boy-crazy, or become hyper-sexual and horny as a teen when I didn’t really experience any of that.

And even when I did get my first taste of real, genuine attraction and love for someone, it wasn’t this big reveal. It snuck up on me quietly, passively, so much so that it took other people pointing it out for me to step back and go “oh shit that sure is a thing that’s happening in my brain”.

My point is there shouldn’t be such a heavy importance on love and attraction on people that young- it shouldn’t be an expectation or a step to adulthood to be completed- but something that just sometimes pops up, sometimes doesn’t, but is just a natural little ‘whatever’ of the world that happens because biology baby. It’s kinda weird that it’s even something adults are thinking about in regards to their kids- not as in anticipating safe sex talks and all that- but that kids and parents should be communicating honestly with each other throughout puberty because it’s a fucking trip to go through all that, and the last thing anyone needs is to be expecting some coup or phsyop of crushes and less-that-innocent thoughts to be popping up in their freaking children- and if that’s even the case setting boundaries and allowing for the appropriate amount of privacy is arguably necessary for healthy development.

I have many thoughts on this topic but. Yeah. There are worse things to be wrong about than deciding you’re not ace.

tbh it doesn't rly hurt teenagers to incorrectly id as ace like... what's the worst than could happen? they don't have sex till they're older?? lol

Ahahaha not me looking at other fanfics characterization and sweating while trying to remind my frail ego that I’m doing this because I was bored and it’s fun, and some people actually just happened to like it.

This is the best explanation I could come up with for why it takes me so long to do updates sometimes when, at other times, I’m typing them up like clockwork.

Absolutely.

Your marriage premium package? Revoked. Sorry sir. The cunt counter is closed for the next four years. Should’ve voted for Harris.

Here’s an idea: Instead of just not having sex with them, you could just divorce or breakup with them and realize you are worthy of being in a relationship with someone who not only values your life, but also who has enough brain matter to prepare for the future, and not just vote on party lines like a stupid bastard.

Okay not ragging on wearing seatbelts at all, DEFINITELY DO THAT, but I will say that I kinda do think seat belts are sexist. Mostly because cars were designed with male drivers in mind and to this day the majority of crash tests are conducted WITH male-only dummies- this has skewed the survivorship of male and female drivers, because women aren’t the the ones with the design in mind, they end up dying on a much more regular basis. (You cannot convince me no woman has ever been boob slapped at an ungodly force because an airbag wasn’t aimed correctly at her chest), I think that the seat belt’s design is just a vestigial remnant of that fact. Women are more likely to die in a crash as the driver, and it’s because cars aren’t usually being tested with female-designed dummies. (There’s a few around now, but this is still pretty new.)

I sincerely think that while unimportant (technically), the design of seat belts could definitely be modified for the comfort of all people while also being safe, if not even safer. Just cause it works doesn’t mean it can’t be better!

Also??? Breast amputation????? Girl- if car crashes resulted in male castrations the design would’ve been changed immediately. Don’t even play with me right now. Even if it’s survivorship bias that’s still a permanent and disfiguring injury that is by all means preventable by an improved design. No one gender or sex should suffer severe bodily disfigurement because they weren’t accounted for. That just isn’t ok.

And it’s not even just women this applies to. Would it kill us to actually cover the rough fabric in soft sleeves? I remember seat belts rubbing and even sometimes burning my skin as a child- because they don’t account for the kaleidoscope of people who will enter, exit, and use a seatbelt while in the car. Children are sensitive to that stimulus too. I don’t think parents of special needs children (or any children, for that matter) should have to go about replacing their car’s seatbelts because some Rich ass company decided to not improve a preexisting design because they want to hold on to their money with greedy grubby fingers. Kinda defeats the purpose of innovation if not a soul tries to improve at something.

What I’m saying is- safety devices like seatbelts are important, and they should absolutely be used and worn, but they can stand to be improved and updated to be better for everyone. Just because they work doesn’t mean their design was inclusive from the jump nor is it currently. Seatbelts working and seat belts having a rather unfriendly design for certain groups are both true statements that can coexist without either being wrong. But that’s something that is fixable. And it shouldn’t be ignored just because it works.

I feel like I can now run for miles with the aid of my inhaler.

Im an unstoppable force. Lock your doors and windows, cuz it’s over for y’all.

Cold weather enjoyer FREAKS when they’re shivering and tensed up and can’t feel their toes and their face hurts and

Me when my psychiatrist (who knows my diagnosises and history with my freaking godawful ADHD and other issues) fucking double booked herself (I assume) and cancelled my perfectly timed appointment the day of, and now I have to self medicate with fujkinf coffee so I don’t get a massive headache while I try to (and fail at) studying the day before an important college exam and a shift at work so I can ration my last pill for tomorrow:

Note:

This appointment was scheduled three months in advance. And now my mouth feels yucky :(

What else am I to slay encroachers with?

Snorting, cackling, and consoling my itty bitty inner child at this.

Bro this sinus infection is kicking my ass.

So is Chem II but we’re not going to talk about my shit professor driving me up the wall when I sound like a prepubescent boy with the amount of croaking and voice cracks I’m having.

Gods pray for me. I don’t know how imma get through this semester but I will somehow make it work in my favor in the end. Somehow.

Go see a doctor if you can, you’re like one of my favorite artists.

I would be very upset if you couldn’t draw because of this, and I’m sure you’d be too. Go get that looked at if you haven’t already, pain traveling is not a good sign. Hoping you’re alright peri. :( keep us posted friend.

Hello everyone, unfortunately it seems the problem i had in my right side is spreading, my left has started to hurt as well (arms & legs) . I am not sure what is happening, or what is going to happen.

Typing is also quite hard as you may imagine and i am writing this with my phone on a pillow in my lap because my arms don't have the strength to hold themselves.

My health isn't quite good to begin with but i never had problems like this that quite literally made me unable to function. They never concerned movement...

This pain seems quite ominous and i really hope i am overreacting and it will be solved soon, but... Yea i kept joking about this to keep it lighthearted for myself as well but i don't have it quite in me anymore.