Controversial Opinion: Regular People Should Not Force People With €ds To Eat.

controversial opinion: regular people should not force people with €ds to eat.

regular person = not a doctor

“that’s just your disordered brain talking” hear me out. what does it help? genuinely, what does forcing someone who has an extreme fear of food to eat help with? I’m primarily talking about 4n0rexia in this context but this applies to every €D.

“it’ll keep them alive a little while longer” no, it won’t. one meal will not reverse the long history of damage done to their body. best case scenario: they will never want to be around you again, they’ll go back to isolating themselves which will be detrimental to their mental health because the idea that ‘people = want me to get fat not better’ has been re-affirmed by you and they will not ask for help in the future. worst case scenario: they do the above AND you have guaranteed the fact that the minute they are back home they will try to get rid of it through exercise, l*xatives, p*rging, or long fasts which they likely would not have felt the need to compensate with if they hadn’t been forced to eat.

I know that for myself, and for other people with multiple types of €ds, that being around people when food isn’t involved or at least not the primary focus, while yes it does aid in our disorder because we aren’t eating, it also gives us the ability to engage in positive activities outside of our disorder. If someone is able to take steps to heal their mental health and create friend groups who don’t judge them but supports them, they’re more likely to recover, or at least form some better habits. Our disorders are exhausting. We need times that our disorder isn’t ruling over too.

“part of getting better is doing things that’s hard, that includes eating.” yes, this is true, but you are not a doctor. If a person is in a state where force feeding is required to keep them alive they need more than one meal forced down them. they need mental health support, support in general, and a doctor to oversee all of it. this strongly applies to ARFID and ORTHO as well but forcing sometime to eat their fear foods/foods they struggle with is NOT helpful.

Forced recovery, even in an institutional setting, with our without mental health support in addition to re-feeding, has been shown to be significantly ineffective compared to willing admittance.

This is not a fucking factory where you can pump a person full of food for a few weeks until they weight x-amount, give them no more help than a doctor who can’t be bothered to see their patients more than once a week in their own hospital and even then the time spent with someone and the questions asked are unhelpful for everyone, then drop them back off at home and expect them not to relapse even harder.

Some people do need outside help. Not everyone can/wants to/has the ability to recover by themselves, some will need a push from outside and in the moment it may feel like a loss of autonomy but it’s what they need. The grey line between thinking just eating and doing breathing exercises will fix them vs. structured support and patience in all aspects of a person’s life isn’t that grey.

All this being said, some people will not recover. No matter what you do, no matter how much you care, no matter how much help you give, not everyone gets better. Ultimately, recovery comes from within and it is only up to the individual if they want to recover. If someone has shown they have no intention of recovery and an understanding of the consequences, it should not be forced upon them. Bodily autonomy applies to more than just reproductive health.

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deathstar-ve

11 months ago

Any other anas donated plasma??

I need tips cause I always binge before donating with the excuse of "it's just so I don't faint" but that's all it is, an excuse. I get so weak and nauseous any time I go around needles and I have a donation tomorrow. Everything I've said online is drink lots of water, and no caffeine/nicotine beforehand. Does anyone have experience/tips for restr1ct1ng before/during donation?

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deathstar-ve

1 year ago

TW: ME4NSP0

TW: ED BUT NOT ED SHEERAN

1. **Disgusting Habits**: Your eating and exercise habits are disgusting. You shovel junk food into your mouth and sit around like a lump. No wonder you feel and look the way you do. It’s gross.

2. **Self-Sabotage**: You’re your own worst enemy. Every time you reach for that junk food or skip a workout, you’re sabotaging yourself. You’re choosing misery over effort. How pathetic is that?

3. **Stop Whining**: You whine about being overweight, but do nothing to change it. You have no one to blame but yourself. Get off your ass and stop feeling sorry for yourself.

4. **Dead Weight**: That’s what you are – dead weight. To yourself, to your family, to your friends. You’re dragging everyone down with your lack of motivation and discipline. Do you want to be the person everyone pities and avoids?

5. **No Self-Respect**: It’s clear you have no respect for yourself. If you did, you wouldn’t treat your body like a garbage dump. Show some self-respect and start taking care of yourself.

6. **Embarrassing**: Your lack of effort is embarrassing. You could change your life, but you choose not to. You choose to stay unhealthy, unattractive, and unhappy. That’s embarrassing.

7. **Quit Being Weak**: You’re being weak. Mentally and physically. Toughen up. Life isn’t going to hand you anything. You have to work for it. Stop being weak and start fighting for your health.

This is your wake-up call. No more coddling. No more excuses. Get up, take action, and prove that you’re not a lost cause.

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deathstar-ve

1 year ago

THIS. Currently getting a divorce from a man like this...we've been married for 6 months and I gave him my virginity. Once you lose weight they show their true colors.

"boys don't want a girl who's just skin and bones!"

i'm not looking for a boy who's going to sexualise my curves, i want someone who i can feel smaller and safer around

not someone who'll tell me "it jiggles when u walk!"

in my personal experience, boys who actively look for girls with curves, aren't looking for girls. they're looking for a good time

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deathstar-ve

11 months ago

Also I'm seeing my husband this Sunday, so I have to stop acting like a p1g or im going to be f4tter than the last time he saw me

I mightve eaten 7k c4ls in the past two days....so I'm gonna attempt a f4st. I'm literally watching all my progress slip away from me rn. 🤪👍

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deathstar-ve

11 months ago

Can yall stop being so relatable? How am I supposed to feel qUiRkY and different when we keep going through the same things. (　ＴДＴ)

lately I’ve been binging my fucking crazy because like you ever have those thoughts where your like “it’s okay I love my body it’s okay to eat!!” Then once you finish that last bite ur like fuck why did I eat that this is why ur so big

just me?

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deathstar-ve

1 year ago