Imo like we tried subversively gender neutral language, we had good intentions, but it didn’t work and it’s time to try something else. The assumption that ungendered/neutral subject=male and relationship=heterosexual is just too strong under a patriarchy. It didn’t take very long at all after everyone started using “partner” for strangers to start assuming I meant a boyfriend when I used it, and I know from outing myself every single day of my life that sometimes you can EXPLICITLY gender your partner and people will just unconsciously fit it into the paradigm theyre more comfortable with. In the case of my girlfriend’s very obviously feminine name, sometimes that’s hearing “Julian” or vocalizing surprise at, as one of her uber drivers put it, how Julia isn’t “a very gender congruent name” but they’ll do it, and they’ll say “he” back to you when you use she. You don’t make social gains by using mailperson if everyone assumes the mailperson is a man anyway, you have to actively challenge Male As Default. Mailwomen or bust tbh.
“but there’s beauty standards for men too! men are punished for not being masculine!” yeah but men’s natural bodies are considered masculine. and women’s natural bodies are considered masculine. not shaving on a man is masculine, and not shaving on a woman is also masculine. do you see the difference? men are discouraged from performing extra beauty rituals whereas women are discouraged from being their natural selves. women are expected to perform rituals to comply with societal gender roles whereas men are expected to be their natural selves.
Stop transitioning gnc kids. Tell them they can be who they are in their bodies. Tell them they are perfect just the way they are.
Getting very sick of trans-identified men making creepy, voyeuristic media about the violence and suffering that women and girls experience at the hands of men.
This will probably seem controversial, but I’m tired of these anti-bipartisan tropes.
The older I get, the more the left and right look like mirror images of each other. Republicans and democrats both hate women. They both hate the climate. Neither care for the general health of the population. When you get into the far left and right - both hate Jews.
The left is really big into identity politics right now, so they tend to cycle through who they support most pretty quickly. It all depends on who can claim the most victim hood. This is seen to the point that people are testifying in court hearings about TIMs in women’s sports who are not doctors, athletes, etc. A woman testified a bit ago saying “as a woman of color, I’m telling you no one cares about trans women in women’s sports”. As though being a woman of color had anything to do with the conversation - and she wasn’t even an athlete or doctor.
The right rarely changes their stances, but instead changes the severity of those stances. So we’ve always known, for example, that they don’t support abortion. Depending on the person, they’ll submit and vote on bills anywhere from the ability to get abortions up to 18 weeks, to the inability to get an abortion no matter what with no exceptions. So they keep the same general stance (anti choice), but they change the severity of that stance (no choice at all or maybe a choice up to so many weeks).
The idea that bipartisanship is bad, or just doesn’t exist, is truly stupid. Both sides are assholes. Usually, both sides are assholes in the same way. It all depends on how well they hide their true thoughts and agendas. Preaching about climate is easy, but you’re taking a jet all over the country? Saying you care about women is easy, but you’re advocating for a complete sunset of roe v wade? Both sides have/are liars.
I could on all day about this, but my point is this: saying “terfs are bad because they share the same viewpoint as conservatives” is just plain dumb. Not only do conservatives not agree with the “rf” part of the “terf”, but they also have their “te” opinions for different reasons than us. Trying to group us together tells me you are either just ignorant of how this works, or you are very thinly veiling your misogyny.
God I hate that I can never be the cute pink princess bunny girl, instead I have to be the weird cool spunky lowkey gay feminist girl.
i hate when people ask me what sign i am like bitch i’m a sign from god. start running.
yall the spiderverse movie is so good critics were not joking thaat shit was better than the godfather oh my god
I know people think the conversion of barbieland to a patriarchy was stupid because greta was either unable or unwilling to acknowledge the real world systems that have historically supported it but personally I think the in-universe explanation that the barbies had lived in a matriarchy for so long that it was easy to brainwash them because they had no idea how bad it would be (and maybe even thought it would be a fun change of pace?) is INCREDIBLY relevant for zillennial girls who've grown up taking feminist victories for granted and are now embracing tiktok tradwife bullshit. imo.
*talking with my friend about math*
Me: well I’m neuro divergent and gay, I chose the gays
Them: I can tell
Me: *feeling offended*