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Hiya!

An embarrassing secret

Please and thank you.

Uh, I still watch kids’ cartoons sometimes.

squishy soldier

send me    ‘ SMOOCHES! ‘    for my muse to grab yours and cover their face with lots of little kisses!

send   ‘ SMOOCHES? ‘   for your muse to do it, instead!

Hello there.

I’m Dania Sharling a water and ice witch and Keeper.

I have a brother, five sisters and seventeen doppelgängers.

Of my siblings I’m the only one here.

And slowly all my doppelgängers are joining.

And when I can I’ll list all their blogs here.

We aren’t fully telepathic to each other but do sense some strong emotions and can end up sharing nightmares/dreams and feel each other's pain, though this is sporadic.

Engaged to Zak Halstead and @shepardstales Gordon Lawson.

Reminder to drink water.

Even if flavor water, still water at end of day.

I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

spent my easter afternoon giving bucky wings what even is my life