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"Life is so largely eating and sleeping and going places without ever getting there."

– Sylvia Plath

Jane Austen was really out there 200 years ago writing lines like “If I loved you less, I might be able to talk about it more” that to this day are still so swoon-worthy.

I am desperately romantic when life has given me no reason to be and that, I think, is the definition of hope.

c.r.w. (via my-writemind)

I want to carpe diem but I’m afraid of embarrassing myself.

— Heather Havrilesky, from “How to Be a Person in the World”

I struggle with being socially anxious, shy and somewhat awkward and i've been told multiple times the first impression people get of me is being cold or mean eventho i'm not a rude person at all. I don't want to give that impression and i've been trying to be more chatty and extroverted. What can I do to come accross more kind and gentle? That's honestly the type of energy I want to have. I envy people with such inviting aura and vibes about them which I don't seem to have.

It’s okay to be reserved, but you should still work on your social skills.

Your facial expressions are important. When people say to smile more often, they don’t mean to stay like 😁😊 but more like 🙂. Think of nice or funny things to keep a sweet expression on your face. Smile from your eyes. “Smile”

Body language is everything. If you cross your arms often for instance, it can be seen as you being closed off and cold. Have open body language. Avoid being a wall flower and hiding in corners.

How are you with small talk? Brush up on social scripts, that’s all it is really is. Say hi to strangers when you pass by (use discernment)

Use eye contact and good posture. Don’t hang your head.

Try to get rid of your paranoia. Being self conscious is what tends to kill charisma.

Stay off of your phone, instead people watch or look at the scenery.

i think the funniest and realist thing i’ve realized lately is how troubling idealization can be. every person is just… a person. the very people you want to impress or be apart of are just people. even if they seem wildly intimidating because of the way they look or because of their reputation, every one is just a person. human. as embarrassing, as remorseful and they are going through stages of growth just like you are. we only see what we want to see and then drown ourselves further in our own depression and we don’t have to.

“One day it just clicks… You realise what is important and what isn’t, you learn to care less about what other people think of you and care more about what you think of yourself. You realise how far you have come and you remember thinking that things were such a mess they’d never recover and then you smile. You smile because you’re truly proud of the person you have fought to become.”

— Unknown

“Dating Rules A High Value Woman follows…” 💗

“When it comes to dating, a high value woman does not leave it to chance…”

Hi loves its your girl Chichi! You ladies really showed a lot of love on my pevious post on “High value woman mentality”  I thought it would be best to make a part 2. Consider this post to be a second addition out of a 5-part series. If you haven’t read part 1 yet. I'd  follow the link here to view it! CLICK HERE!

1. Maintain An Aura of Mystery…🌸

Try to refrain from telling them too much about yourself. By doing this, you will intrigue (him/her) and keep them interested. They will be excited at the thought of meeting you, and will always look forward to seeing you again. Which is what we want to build up a strong attraction for.

** However….this does NOT mean you should be playing mind games! That will get you no where. You should simply release information about yourself gradually during the dating process, so that you do not become boring and too predictable.**

2. If they loose Interest.. Do NOT chase after them!🌸

A high value woman DOES NOT chase after anyone! A High value women believes it’s not worth chasing or pursuing after anyone who is not taking the time to invest & make an effort to see her. **This rule can be Implemented in all parts of your life.**

If they goes as far as walking away, ghosting, and/or send mixed signals, they are definitely not worth pursuing in the first place. He has made up his mind about you. There is no point in trying to talk it through, in hopes of changing his mind.  Move onto the next !

In dating.. most men are not complicated. If he wanted to be with you, your heart will tell you & his actions will prove it. God/The Universe didn’t blessed us women with intuition for no reason! If you’re currently questioning yourself right now: “Why is that guy is emotionally unavailable.” “Why he doesn’t talk to me…” Darling , you already know the answer… Your EGO just doesn’t want to accept it. He’s just not that into you!!

3. Date Men who like you more!🌸

It took me a 2 years to understand this… which s why I’m sharing this knowledge with you today.

When you wait for the guy you like, to eventually like you back. You close many doors on good men who really do like you, and have the potential to make you happy. I’ve seen this scenario play out so many times! A Women will reject/ friend zone a good man, for the typical ‘bad boy’. Then sit on social media & complain about why all men are F-boys and toxic, when things don’t work out.

There are many good men out there! You just pick & vet the wrong ones! Maybe he’s shorter than you imagined. Or he’s not that physically attractive. I’m not saying you should lower your standards by any means. You should vet men by how much they invest in you. (ex: their actions & consistency) Not just by their appearance alone. Remember you are the prize!!

In Gentleman Prefer Blondes it was clear Gus Eisman obviously loved Loreli Lee WAYY more than she liked him, II obvious from the beginning. Lorieli was clearly with him for Gus’s assets 💸 However, in the film Gus treated Loreli like the desired prize she was, until the end of the film! When a man is truly in love with you he’ll do almost anything too make you happy.

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Chichi xo.

Sometimes people think they know you. They know a few facts about you, and they piece you together in a way that makes sense to them. And if you don't know yourself very well, you might even believe that they are right. But the truth is, that isn't you. That isn't you at all.

— Leila Sales