Lol They Thought Beating Japan Was The End???

A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.

“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”

Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.

My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.

“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”

Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.

“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.

What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.

Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.

And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?

On the subject of black people and reproductive health (and if you’re black and capable of having children/have a cycle you have some of THE worse reproductive issues, i’m so sorry), I think about the time that white trans masc joined in on ridiculing reproductive health and restrictions in Texas, that affect primarily black and brown people, including black trans people. So to see some of them joining in on in on this conversation of a black trans employee being fired, when they were aye okay with wishing Texas blew up and had the audacity to be upset when people were centering black and brown people in reproductive justice, is infuriating. This is what I mean when i say some of this is so clearly performative. 

Like I am actually very tired of white and non-black trans people using us as cannon fodder as well as our experiences, but turning around and being anti-black two seconds later. 

I guess reproductive health and pregnancy for trans folks only matter when it’s white and non-black trans people? Or police violence only matters when it’s non-black trans people. 

i want to learn at least 6 languages and play the bass and electric guitar and piano and make sculptures and paint and write and have a little garden and a cosy home with a reading corner and a bedroom with a rooflight but mostly i just want to love and be loved love this world cherish my life and everyone around me

FINALLY

IT’S HAPPENING!!! I CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S HAPPENING FOR REAL

can I just say you're the only one in the unhealthy/ healthy tomco post that's reasonable?? the person who posted it is legit dodging Toms flaws and things he's done wrong but you point them out and reason both sides. I have respect for you dude. I ship tomco and I wish some people would understand that even though Tom is making up for it, he did do bad things. you list that. applaud to you dude. (I'm kind of scared saying this tbh but I feel like I can trust you a bit)

I think my biggest problem with a lot of theory/ analysis/ discussion blogs on here is that i always felt like they were very biased.

Usually ship biased.

I prefer to usually be open minded when i talk about stuff then being that person who denies everything for their ship. Every ship has it’s flaws, and if you pretend they don’t it just sounds ignorant because you making one ship out to be utterly perfect while every other ship is bad because it has flaws just makes me think of you as unreliable. Even things you like, you can accept aren’t perfect, and that’s fine.

I love tomco, but i won’t sit here and deny the flaws within the characters, or the ship. I can acknowledge their flaws, and love the ship endlessly.

Tom is a fascinating character to me, i adore him. He’s not perfect, he makes bad choices, but i can understand where he’s coming from and why he makes them, it doesn’t make them any better but it does allow you to really get his character.

It makes him relatable, 3D, he’s no flat character who does everything right all the time, he’s a kid who is clearly going through a lot and in turn he does things that understandably make Star and Marco mad…which in turn makes you feel for him since you know all Tom wants is to be loved and feel proud of himself. And he keeps driving away two people who have the making to be his best friends.

Tom is not an angel, but he’s also not the heartless monster a lot of the fandom treats him as.

He’s an understandable character, and i know in the future he and i’m sure some other characters will do things i will call them out for. But i’m glad the crew wanted to take this route with him, I really hope we see Tom grow to feel proud of himself and love himself someday and I’m glad Marco is here for him and stays by his side despite everything, because Marco didn’t have to do that, but he just cares about Tom and it’s just sweet of him to want to still hang out with him despite his flaws and everything in their past.

They’re too good for this fanbase.

I can’t wait to watch them learn from their mistakes and grow closer in future seasons.

And thanks, i’m glad people enjoy my thoughts on the matter. ^^;

An open letter to white Star Wars fans:

Y’all gotta stop talking over us. Y’all gotta listen when we speak, y’all gotta boost our voices, y’all gotta stop brushing us off as insignificant because we are small in number. Stop trying to tell us what is and isn’t racism; y’all have not experienced racism a DAY in your life, you do not get to tell me if something is racist when I’m pushed aside for the color of my skin or the slant of my eyes. You don’t get to tell the Māori fans that the clones aren’t whitewashed, you don’t get to tell the black and Asian fans that Finn and Rose Tico weren’t shafted. And y’all don’t get to pretend that half of this crap doesn’t come from fandom racism, because y’all get mad every single fucking time there’s a non white character on screen.

And no. It is not all white Star Wars fans. You don’t need to remind me of that, I’m well aware and I’m not in the mood to hear “but not all white people!” You know what? It might not be all white people, but all POC are affected, so maybe rethink that argument if you were getting ready to type that into my replies. Not to mention, racism is embedded so deep within this fandom that if you are not using your platforms to spread the word, you are contributing. POC cannot be the only ones doing this. There aren’t enough of us, and you know why? Because every time y’all see a POC make valid points about fandom or in-show/in-movie racism, y’all ignore them and harass them out of the fandom. Y’all talk over then, tell them that they’re just being over dramatic, that no, they couldn’t possibly know what whitewashing is, because god forbid someone point out flaws in the media you’re interested in.

I’m tired of it. And I know a lot of other POC in this fandom are tired of it too.

when u stand w ur hands Like That

rebolg if u agree

You’re right and does anyone notice how paparazzi culture has evolved into Stan culture nowadays especially since social media used more ?

Everyone is (rightfully) angry at Britney’s family for keeping her under the conservatorship, but let’s not forget it was the tabloid press who drove her to a breakdown, who isolated her to the point that it was possible for her to be placed under such control. And not only did they get away with it, they harassed countless other women and continue to do so with near impunity.

I'm already sobbing. Instead of being good people, they already made the dark skinned girl hypermasculine.

Honestly Sylkie is a caricature of everything wrong with a lot of (canon) MCU romances. The MCU has this bizarre desire to add a seuxal subtext to literally every m/f relationship, even if it makes sense or not. 

Like Steve and Sharon. Objectively a fine pairing in the comics. But in the MCU? It’s so gross. If we are to believe that Steve was always there and was always Peggy’s husband, then that means that he just kissed his niece. A child he would see born, grow up, and mature. HE KISSED HER. 

This is the same weird relationships that color Sylvie and Loki. Calling her Sylvie doesn’t make them any less related. They have the same parents. They have the same DNA, bloodlines, and lives. They are more than related. It’s gross on every level. 

Nat and Bruce are another example. There was no need to add that romance. It was just the idea that Nat was existing near men which means she needed to have a romance with one of them. Even if he’s a lot older. Even if they have no chemistry. Man + Woman = Romance. The lack of diversity creates a lazy writing environment. It’s assumed that the relationships makes sense, because he’s a man and she’s a woman. It doesn’t need to be more than that. 

Sylkie is the exact same way. She’s female presenting, He’s male presenting, therefore it’s romantic. Not matter how they’re related. 

It’s lazy, it’s gross, and I’m so over it.