Georges Hobeika Spring 2017

Please help me escape my current living situation

I've thought about doing this for awhile and was too scared to for fear my husband would see this post but I can't do it anymore. I need help to get myself and my son out of an abusive situation. I'm going to place my story below a cut because it will contain topics that can be triggering.

I've been with my husband for 17 years, married for 11 and for 15 of those years I've been emotionally abused and raped. The very first time he held me down and raped me anally I thought it would never happen again. He'd just lost his job and he lost control. But that wasn't the last time. Over the course of a decade he broke me down emotionally, made me think I was nothing but a sex toy to him. He took my fantasies, many of which I've written about and he twisted them. Tying me up and blindfolding me so I couldn't see or escape what was coming. The spanking/punishments that I would get would go from pleasurable/light hearted to out right torture leaving me bruised, bleeding and sobbing for him to stop. Which he wouldn't until he was satisfied. He'd vaginally insert sex toys, his fingers or his penis, raping me usually unlubricated until I was torn and bleeding. He'd take photos that I never consented to for his own pleasure later. When I mentioned wanting a safe word the answer was no because we didn't need one. He didn't but I did.

He controlled so much of my life inside our home. What I could wear, how I did my hair, I could never wear make up, even during our wedding when I did wear light makeup he told me I looked disgusting and I shouldn't have put any on. I lost touch with my friends and rarely spoke to my family. Hell, I couldn't even pick what we watched on TV because if he wasn't interested I wasn't allowed to be either.

When I told him I wasn't interested in marriage, he told me I wasn't committed to him and that our relationship meant nothing to me if we didn't get married, so to prove my commitment I got married. Within a couple years we had our son and I thought maybe he would change cause he was a dad now. But no, the emotional abuse was brought upon our baby.

There isn't a day that goes by that he doesn't yell at our son about something. He's playing too loud, he's watching too much TV, he didn't clean up fast enough, he didn't move fast enough, he's asking for too much help with homework, he eats too much/not enough and the list goes on. My son is 9 years old and he's never known that dad's aren't like that. That other kids have dad's that don't yell at them when they ask for something to eat.

I can't keep raising my son in this house and I can't keep being abused either. I hate to do this but I need help. He takes my paychecks and I've been saving what I can but the cost of living keeps going up. Shelters in my area are more than full. Below is my PayPal, the only place I can save money that my husband doesn't have access too. If you can spare a dollar or even a reblog I will be eternally grateful. Please help us and thank you.

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An Unnecessarily Comprehensive Sandman Reading Order

Having now read EVERY comic that I could find based on, using characters from, or tying in with @neil-gaiman‘s Sandman series, I thought I should provide what is, as far as i can tell, the definitive list of everything Sandman, in roughly the order of publication, and also what I thought of them. Warning: there’s a lot of it (over 580 issues in two and a half months).

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Fantasy Guide to Palaces and How they Work

I'm always being asked how palaces work whether its downstairs, upstairs or accommodation wise. It is a really difficult thing to explain since there are so many different versions. I thought up a great analogy for it. Treat a palace like a hotel with a whole town living in it, because that's technically what it is. So that's what we're going to do.

Accommodation

Accommodation can be a difficult thing to sort both as a writer and a steward. You might have a palace of 200+ bedchambers in which you must house a staff of 500-/+, a varying amount of nobles, the royal family (of a varying amount) and their own households. When assigning rooms it is best to think of a Russian nesting doll. Start from the inside and work your way to the outside.

The best rooms go to the monarch, their consort and their children/siblings/parent(s). These chambers would include the bedroom, a drawing room/ common area, a privy, a closet (a small chamber that can be used for prayer or work). They would be furnished with the best cloth, the best candles and whatever furniture brought by the resident since most royal courts travelled from palace to palace. They will also have chambers for their personal servants such as ladies in waiting and grooms.

The second best set of rooms would go to the highest ranking nobles/people in the court. These rooms would be less fancy and a little smaller. These would be given to from titled nobility descending from those of Ducal rank (Dukes/Duchesses) or even members of the council such as Thomas Cromwell in Tudor times.

The next set would be considerably smaller, perhaps minus a closet or a drawing room. Given to lower nobility.

The next level of chambers would be smaller perhaps only the bedroom and a common area given to minor nobles.

The last set of rooms would be small and only hold enough room for a bedroom. Servants would have to sleep on the ground on pallets beside their masters.

Any other guests at court would have to stay at off-site locations around the palace in the city. Some nobles at houses around major palaces just in case they arrived late or were kicked out of court.

Room Service

Most palace kitchens were in the lower extremities of the building. They would include an area for food preparation, pantries (rooms where they keep the food) and perhaps even a common area for the servants. Food would be cooked in large ovens, rather looking like pizza ovens or on spits over fire pits. The kitchens would turn out food on order of the nobility and royalty which would be brought to the rooms by the noble's own servants. But since royal palaces are so large and microwaves do not exist, the food would likely be cold when it arrived. For larger, more public dinners, the court would gather in the great hall together (for more on this).

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Fantasy Guide to Feasts, Food and Drink

Picture yourself at a banquet held at the local Lord's castle. The music is playing, the people are chatting and rustling about in their bes

Entertainment

If you hoard over a thousand people into a single building, you will have to keep them entertained or else they might start misbehaving, more than usual. Palaces would be well stocked with ways to keep the courtiers occupied.

Every palace would have a stable where the residents' horses would be chillin'. Some palaces have parkland around them for hunting and picnicking.

Most palaces would have common areas where courtiers would meet to play card games or gossip like a game room.

There would be lawns converted for games such as bowling, croquet and tennis.

Some palaces like Versailles would have indoor theatres and stages for traveling players to perform pieces for the court.

Mediaeval castles would have pits for cockfighting or bear baiting usually outside the main castle on the grounds.

Services

We've spent enough time upstairs. Now lets look at the servants portion of the palace.

The local servants (those who serve at the palace all year round) would typically sleep in mass chambers grouped together according to jobs and gender.

The stableboys would likely sleep in the stable's hay lofts.

The unmarried girls of the castle would be locked in to protect their virtue (a precautionary rule though was frequently broken).

The cooks would sleep near the kitchen in order to get to work early as they could or if they had to rise early.

Stewards (the main boss of the servants) would have the best accommodation as would the other heads of the different groups of servants including the housekeeper, the chef, the head gardener.

Servants who came along with the court would be housed either in close quarters to their masters or on the floor by their bed.

The servants have different corridors and staircases to get around the palace without being seen. These would be smaller and plain parts of the palace.

For @innergoldx sorry it took so long

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Why Should I Care - Billy Russo

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Billy Russo One Shots

Billy at Tiffany’s

Not Going as Planned (Sequel to Billy at Tiffany’s)

Crossing Paths - Young Sirius Black

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Rekindled Love - Older Sirius Black

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Keeping Secrets - Young Remus Lupin

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Can’t stop watching this  (x)

Originally posted by Maggie Geha (x)

Stop making new bands. The only bands that have ever mattered are Big Time Rush and Lemonade Mouth

switch up your verbs (part one) ~

walked - hiked - moved - shuffled - toddled - sauntered - ambled - tiptoed - meandered - strolled

laughed - chortled - chuckled - giggled - snorted - guffawed - howled - snickered - shrieked

wanted - ached for - wished - craved - coveted - fancied - pined - aspired

ran - sprinted - galloped - scampered - bolted - trotted - dashed - raced - jogged

jumped - bounced - hopped - leapt - hurtled - vaulted - barged - bounded

Not sure who needs to here this.

But you can format Google Docs so you don't have to hit the enter button all over again when you go to Ao3. And don't risk giving potential readers a headache because we can't read paragraph blocks.

What you want to do is on desktop go under Format to line and paragraph spacing and then change the number from whatever it is set at (usually 1.15) to Single. (I'm not sure what this changes going over to Ao3 but this was how I taught it).

And then after that go back again to Format and line and paragraph spacing. But this time hit add space after paragraph.

And now when you paste it over to Ao3 all you have to worry about is adding a scene break.

There is a way to do it on Word but I'm not sure how.

If there is a way to do this on Mobile IDK.

This is glorious and even thought it doesn’t fit in the range of all the paranormal, I MUST share

It works like this: You tell Kitestring that you’re in a dangerous place or situation, and give it a time frame of when to check in on you. If you don’t reply back when it checks your status, it’ll alert your emergency contacts with a custom message you set up.

It doesn’t require you to touch anything (like bSafe) or shake your phone (like Nirbhaya) to send the distress signal. Kitestring is smarter, because it doesn’t need an action to alert people, it needs inaction.

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The New Yorker

How Tumblr Became Popular for Being Obsolete

The social-media platform’s status as a relic of the Internet has attracted prodigal users as well as new ones.

positive press? for tumblr???? my gd.......