Black History Month Is In A Couple Hours

How to have a conversation about a topic you’re not interested in or don’t know anything about:

Listen to what the other person has to say about the topic.

Ask a question about what they said. Asking them to clarify or explain something you don’t understand is great, but any question will do. All else fails, ask them to explain what they like about some part of the topic.

Listen to their responses and go back to step 2.

Do this until 5-15 minutes has passed, then change the subject to a topic of your interest, unless you are actually interested in learning more on this subject, in which case, go on for as long as you like.

Sometimes, they will say something like “I’m sorry to blather on about [topic].” This is an attempt at a conversational dismount. You can either say “no, it was fascinating, thanks” and then bring up your own topic, or you can say “no, it’s fascinating, please keep going” if you want to keep hearing about their topic. Note the tense difference (past -> moving on, present -> keep going).

I just thought I’d write a script for this, because someone who can’t / won’t do this came up in a Captain Awkward column, and listening about topics you have no interest in is a really useful skill to have and not often explicitly taught, particularly to boys and men.

Is that sprinkle sprinkle woman an ex sw?

No Clue. I just know the advice she gives is only useful when you are tricking/whoring.

I get on tumblr and its the same 6 posts refashioned from the dead horse that is glowup/levelup content.

I am taking this so seriously. I’m at the used book store

Can't stand how people need me to like what they clearly love. like babe if you like it i love it, why would i rain on your parade.

sorry for marcus aurelius posting but the thing that nerds who are pretentious about not liking sports don't seem to understand is that physical trials create mental toughness. your spirit is weak because you do not challenge your body. you have no sense of accomplishment because you quit at the first sign of discomfort. you are easily discouraged because you have not pushed past adversity and proven to yourself that you can win. you cannot succeed because you cannot conquer even yourself.

“Living weapon” covers a lot and all of it is hot

What is the difference between a cathedral and a physics lab? Are they not both saying: Hello?

I think one of the biggest things to remember is the difference between a diet that helps you lose weight (which can be full of crappy foods but if it’s low enough in calories then yes you will lose weight bc calories in calories out), a diet to make you eat more healthy (which does not guarantee weight loss even if you’re eating whole grains and fruits and vegetables every day), and a diet to get more fit (which is usually different for everyone’s fitness goals such as getting as much protein in as possible, eating a ton of calories to bulk or less calories to cut, etc). Someone will make a list of foods for healthy eating and then someone will be like “ummmm actually if I ate all of those foods then I wouldn’t lose any weight bc that oatmeal bowl is like 600 calories and that’s too much” when that wasn’t even the point in the first place. Weight loss, healthy eating, and fitness focused diets can have a lot of overlap, but it’s not always interchangeable. Like when people gain weight as a vegan. Like yeah you gained weight, you ate a double decker impossible burger with soy bacon and extra cashew cheese with a side of Oreos every day. Where did you think those calories were gonna go, to space? You ate foods you considered to be more healthy but you ate it in abundance. And at the same time you can eat 1200 calories of pizza and McDonald’s every day and lose weight bc you’re in such a caloric deficit. Is it a balanced and healthy diet of whole foods? No but health wasn’t the goal for you, just weight loss by any means possible. Just pay attention to the terminology being used when people discuss food with you bc that can change the output significantly.

life becomes so beautiful when you start cooking rice in liquids other than water