Money Changes Things Because If You Get Your Heart Broken Or Something Fails, You’re Just Like It Was

Just saw a tik tok that listed pro black as a black woman ✨aesthetic✨………….

This is quite literally what i meant when i said men wouldn’t know what beauty is if it bit them.

The outline of desirable traits that guides their attraction lacks enough specificity to allow them to experience individual beauty (beauty is in details imo).

A lot of problems would be resolved if men raised - or moreso, personalized - their standards. All these "she has to have <4 bodies" and "she has to be ✨️submissive and feminine✨️" are shallow (and useless) ways to fix the root problem, which is that men don't know what they like and pick their partners based on other men's standards, settling for women they barely like and making everyone involved miserable in the process.

Instead of spending your time riding podcaster dick, trying to gauge what makes a woman objectively better than the next, you could... dare I suggest... sit with yourself for a moment, do some introspection (*gasp*) and find out what specific things make YOU like a woman and put her in a different category than the rest.

Yeah, you don't want a whore, you don't want a old hag over the ancient age of 26, you don't want a fatty, you don't want her to wear the pants, you don't want her to be loud, wah-wah, but a woman *not* being all of those things isn't automatically going to make her right for you.

We are not even going to get into how so many of these standards are more about what makes you feel insecure and not about what you are attracted to or endeared by. Into how there's actually plenty of men attracted to old women, fat women, promiscuous women, or dominant women who will chase down a cute thin blonde and, granted they manage to cuff her, spend their married life cheating on her.

Most men are going to spend the first half of their life looking for those "ideal" qualities and nothing else, end up settling for the closest thing they can get to what they are taught is the ideal woman (which often is just the first poor soul they managed to snatch off the streets once they noticed they are starting to bald - they love to talk about how we can't all marry rich men, yet they think there's an attractive under 21 virgin with a pleasant personality for all of them), and changing that poor woman's life for the worst.

I miss the true whores 🥲

hi sorry i have a question. how do you become a person. how do you develop the will to be a person. i have sadly proven unkillable

you have to be sincere. you have to stop being sad that you haven't been killed and take up the burden of loving yourself and taking care of yourself. and when I say love yourself I mean pretend you are an angel sent down by God for the purpose of loving and healing one specific person, yourself. and when I say take care of yourself I mean pretend you are an alien zookeeper and your only job is to look after a single human being in the Earth enclosure, you. after a few years of practicing this, you will develop the ability to like yourself and enjoy your own company, and you'll know enough about yourself to take it from there. I'm ordering you to do this, whether you have the "will" to do it or not, out of pure self-interest, because five years from now it will have made you good company and I prefer the human world to be populated with good companions. little lanterns against the inhospitable night of the age of Iron.

Fuck it Rat Fairies

Think I used to get bogged down in “do I forgive this person” “do I even out the scales” “should I stand my ground” but really the question I should be asking is “what would be better for me” bc really. What would be better for me in the long term. What would stay true to my self respect and boundaries and values? What would provide the best outcome? What would make the most of our time? Sometimes that’s forgiveness and sometimes it’s not and I don’t think either route is necessarily morally superior to the other so long as it minimizes harm and is fair while also prioritizing your happiness

"oh you know him"

Worse than the pining is the actual material danger of dating a man that doesn’t like you. The violence men enact upon partners is well documented.

Maybe I'm being a bitch but I don't understand how some girls can be so clueless? Do they read what they are sending you? Do they read the "self love blogs they follow? Red flag after red flag, and they are still giving the guy the benefit of the doubt. It's sad.

“Red flag after red flag, and they are still giving the guy the benefit of the doubt.” No literally. Why are you so desperate to get a date or relationship out of a guy that barely likes you? I truly don’t understand it. “What can I do to make him text more often? He makes plans for a date but never follows up on it, this is the 8th time. What can I do to make him commit to the date? We’ve been DMing each other for 2 years now, what can I do to get him to make us official?” why do you even want him I just don’t understand pining so hard after people who aren’t reciprocating the desire for a relationship with you. You don’t ever want to feel on fire for someone while they are only room temperature about you. What kind of relationship is that?

We cannot abandon trans people